Bad Friends

Written by: Nessa

Recently I have been advertising via my signature for interviews, and one of the topics was bad friends. Apricus, Kyra, Tymaporer, and PuddingofEvil all PMed me to participate.

I’ve split the article into two separate articles, as these girls had quite a bit to say and it seemed like a bit too much to read at once. This week you have Apricus and Kyra, and next time you’ll hear from Tymaporer and PuddingofEvil.

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What's the worst thing a good friend has done to you?

:Apricus:

Worst thing. Um. Probably when my one friend went through this phase where he would talk to me, but only when he wanted to complain about his life, never to listen about mine once in a while, or when I wanted to talk to him he would pretend to listen for a while. When I was in the middle of talking would run off because some other girl (who he claimed not to really like that much) was going to call him or he had promised to call her.

::Kyra::

Some of my friends didn't call or make any effort to contact me after my dad passed away.

Did he or she show any remorse or apologize?

:Apricus:

He apologized after a little while, after he noticed I was hurt by it.

::Kyra::

Not yet. I don't think they realize what they did.

Are you still friends with this person today?

:Apricus:

I'm still friends with him.

::Kyra::

Yes, but not as good as we used to be.

How has this changed you?

:Apricus:

I don't know if I have changed from it... I guess it kind of showed me how I should be a little more forward when a friend is hurting me, because until I hinted that what he was doing was hurtful, he had no idea, and it probably wouldn't have stopped if I hadn't.

::Kyra::

I have a harder time opening up to people in real life, and I can't really trust people as much as I used to.

Would you say you're more cynical or protective of yourself?

:Apricus:

I guess maybe I’m a little more protective of myself in the way that now I probably am not as willing to like, let friends walk all over me--if that makes sense.

::Kyra::

Definitely. I don't even just randomly chat with people anymore.

Are you stronger or a better person now?

:Apricus:

I’m a stronger person in that way I suppose.

::Kyra::

I wouldn't say I'm a better person, but I think I'm a lot stronger than I used to be. I don't cry as much now. :P

What are some words of advice you can give to other PPTers about being good friends or who might've been through something just as hurtful as you?

:Apricus:

Words of advice? Well, don't let people walk all over you. If a friend is hurting you, confront them about it (in an assertive way, but not in a way that's hurtful to them, because they may not know they are doing it) instead of letting it happen until you're going to go crazy.

::Kyra::

If someone totally ditches you after something bad happens, they are not your friend. They can make up as many excuses as they want, but unless they suddenly had to leave the country, or had something just as bad to deal with, they were not there for you when they should and could have. Make better friends with the people who were there for you, because you don't need the ones who weren't.

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Thank you for your time Apricus, and Kyra. It’s well appreciated and I hope that your stories have inspired others to be better friends to each other.

Next time we’ll hear from Tymaporer and PuddingofEvil.

‘til then,

-nessa.