Mon Jul 12, 2004 2:32 am
Fiddelysquat wrote:Instead of only talking about that Deltora Quest thing, find out about other things she likes. See if she uses her computer and start an online game like Runescape together and be IM buddies. After you two talk a lot for a while and really get to know each other, you'll be able to carry on conversations that aren't just discussions about common interests. You'll be able to joke around and such.
If somebody teases you or her, just say, "Sorry, I'm mature enough to realize that guys and girls can be friends. Maybe you're too much of a baby to know that cooties aren't real, but we've figured it out already." make them look stupid.
Lol I'm smart enough. All my friends still believe in cootie insurance, cootie forcefields, cootie barriers etc. Yeah, 2 years ago my friends and I started thing "D-Club" thing but now I remembered the d stands for detective, and we were looking for ghosts
But we were too young back then to know. Anyway, there was only one girl in the club: Kelly, and we mixed with her quite well. She was like the only girl in the class who could be friends with boys.
By the way, I'm like the only person in the school who's a computer expert (and I mean EXPERT). There's an IT group for some really intelligent computer children, and I'm in it. obody teases me about being a cmputer geek, but some idots in room 3 call me a "nerd". They think they're so tough but when my friends stand up for me (they're really good friends, but I can fight my own fights) they like cower
Sorry, going off topic. TFM, if I invite her to chat in a private place I'm sure she'll realize I like her, and I'm not ready for that yet.
Mon Jul 12, 2004 2:39 am
I agree with Fidds. Live (semi-) dangerously by venturing on past talking about the books you two like. Try to find something new to talk about every time you talk to her. Even if you two don't have the same opinion on something, that makes the conversation bcome more interesting.
Disagreement builds trust in odd ways. If you two can disagree with each other just once, it would be a big step, because that would mean you two have moved on past talking about common interests, and that you are comfortable enough with each other that you can voice your opinions about different things, whether the other person feels the same or not.
And disagreeing doesn't have to be an ugly thing. It can lead to lots of fun and much joking about, because you can tease her about it and she can tease you back. Friendly joking would be a huge step, and once you can do that, you will feel more comfortable talking about just about anything.
Disagreement builds trust in odd ways. If you two can disagree with each other just once, it would be a big step, because that would mean you two have moved on past talking about common interests, and that you are comfortable enough with each other that you can voice your opinions about different things, whether the other person feels the same or not.
And disagreeing doesn't have to be an ugly thing. It can lead to lots of fun and much joking about, because you can tease her about it and she can tease you back. Friendly joking would be a huge step, and once you can do that, you will feel more comfortable talking about just about anything.
Mon Jul 12, 2004 2:52 am
Apricus wrote:I agree with Fidds. Live (semi-) dangerously by venturing on past talking about the books you two like. Try to find something new to talk about every time you talk to her. Even if you two don't have the same opinion on something, that makes the conversation bcome more interesting.
Disagreement builds trust in odd ways. If you two can disagree with each other just once, it would be a big step, because that would mean you two have moved on past talking about common interests, and that you are comfortable enough with each other that you can voice your opinions about different things, whether the other person feels the same or not.
And disagreeing doesn't have to be an ugly thing. It can lead to lots of fun and much joking about, because you can tease her about it and she can tease you back. Friendly joking would be a huge step, and once you can do that, you will feel more comfortable talking about just about anything.
Thanks for the advice
*dreams of the Shadow Lord wearing diapers 
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Mon Jul 12, 2004 2:54 am
Fiddelysquat wrote:If you're 11, I honestly believe you're too young to be having romantic relationships, really. I'd work on cementing a solid friendship. They're woth more than short lived dates, and it can turn in to something very serious and strong when you're older.
Wazza? I thought he was 10. Funny how someone a year older can be giving him love advice. Hmm,girls mature faster. *flicks hair*
Mon Jul 12, 2004 2:57 am
Chaud wrote:Sorry, going off topic. TFM, if I invite her to chat in a private place I'm sure she'll realize I like her, and I'm not ready for that yet.
Oooh, yeah, overlooked that. That may make her feel just a tad bit uncomfy as well, eh? Hm...give me a few minutes and I'll get back to you.
Mon Jul 12, 2004 3:02 am
Kitten Medli wrote:Fiddelysquat wrote:If you're 11, I honestly believe you're too young to be having romantic relationships, really. I'd work on cementing a solid friendship. They're woth more than short lived dates, and it can turn in to something very serious and strong when you're older.
Wazza? I thought he was 10. Funny how someone a year older can be giving him love advice. Hmm,girls mature faster. *flicks hair*
I'm 10. Maybe fidds just made a typo.
Mon Jul 12, 2004 3:25 pm
I know I'm getting too old for this... but I still sometimes have my friends ask people out for me. I haven't done that since last fall though. If you do that make sure they don't ask the person in front of the whole class. 
Cuz it really sucks when they turn you down cuz they already have a girlfriend.
When I was that young and I liked someone I would be mean to them. Like tipping their desk over when they go to the bathroom or throwing your binder at them, or chasing them around the classroom. Then again maybe thats not such a good idea cuz I got in trouble for all those things.
Cuz it really sucks when they turn you down cuz they already have a girlfriend.
When I was that young and I liked someone I would be mean to them. Like tipping their desk over when they go to the bathroom or throwing your binder at them, or chasing them around the classroom. Then again maybe thats not such a good idea cuz I got in trouble for all those things.
Mon Jul 12, 2004 3:41 pm
It's ok, you're only 10, plenty of girls to choose from. If you think you're going to like her for the next 3-4 years (or maybe longer) then stick with her.
One of my bfs liked me (he claimed he "loved" me, but do we care? noooo
) since when I was year 7 (about 11-12) and still liked me in october last year. Er...we actually went out, but after a while he dumped me so *shrugs* What I'm saying is that if you think you're going to like her for that long, then go with it. Understand her more, maybe spot it when she's hurt or anything. If she has another crush and well, he doesn't like her, then say something about it, something that would make her feel good. It's hard to stand, but well, you just have to live with it and maybe you'll get something good back. 
One thing you shouldn't do is tell her you like her, she doesn't like her, and you avoid her. The tell her part is not the thing you shouldn't do, if you plan to tell her, then anticipate responses (usually pessimism comes in useful in these occasions). But whatever answer she gives you, don't avoid her!! Stay with her, be her friend and maybe someday she would like you. then again, you may like someone else
Whatever you choose to do, good luck!
One of my bfs liked me (he claimed he "loved" me, but do we care? noooo
) since when I was year 7 (about 11-12) and still liked me in october last year. Er...we actually went out, but after a while he dumped me so *shrugs* What I'm saying is that if you think you're going to like her for that long, then go with it. Understand her more, maybe spot it when she's hurt or anything. If she has another crush and well, he doesn't like her, then say something about it, something that would make her feel good. It's hard to stand, but well, you just have to live with it and maybe you'll get something good back.
One thing you shouldn't do is tell her you like her, she doesn't like her, and you avoid her. The tell her part is not the thing you shouldn't do, if you plan to tell her, then anticipate responses (usually pessimism comes in useful in these occasions). But whatever answer she gives you, don't avoid her!! Stay with her, be her friend and maybe someday she would like you. then again, you may like someone else
Whatever you choose to do, good luck!